I have always wondered about those moms whose life revolves only around their children. Their food, their health, their upbringing, their studies, classes, their growing up and so on !
These moms hardly trust anyone because they feel no one can do better, rather not even close. That’s the reason they never leave them with anyone. Even if they do, they leave a number of instructions along. Let it be their own mom or their mother in law. They are never happy with the way they are look after them.
'You should have fed her a fruit !’
"Why did you give him chocolates ?”
"How is it that she always skips milk ?”
"How did he fall ? Weren’t you with him ? and what not...!!
This is what happens when they leave them for couple of hours. These two three hours make them impatient and agog so there isn’t any question of leaving them for a couple of days unless it is inescapable and unavoidable. This is the time we need to 'let go’ few things just for ourselves. Also it is nice to get pampered and caressed from others on kids part too.
Leaving kids and enjoying a trip with spouse or friends is a terrible sin for them..!
I have heard my friends saying, "how can you even think of keeping poor kids at home and enjoying a vacation without them ?”
"Why should someone else take care of your kids while you are having fun somewhere ?”
‘Isn’t it your responsibility to take them with you while you enjoy ?’
I agree a little in this argument. Kids are comfortable at home and enjoy wherever they are... and it is ok once a year to have a vacation for your own. This is the time you spend for yourself carefree. No obligation of carrying food stuff, playing stuff and all those extra things you feel might be needed. No running behind, no shouting and no yelling. You get plenty of time to read, write, sit and do practically nothing. You get solace time to discuss and talk about so many things with your spouse you don’t normally do. You are free to behave the way you want without someone watching and judging you. This is the time every couple needs to revitalise their relation.
Secondly there are such destinations, where kids are too young to explore. That can be a trek, which is physically toilsome, Or a place meant only for adults, Or a destination which is too extravagant or lavish for them. If everything comes in an easy way, it is we who leave them with less ambition to explore more, on their own ability.
Of course it is not the destination that matters but the 'me time’ that rejuvenates.
Believe me such vacations are very much refreshing and are a must for every couple. After all it is your life, kids are a only part of it. Trust me this will not make you any less responsible parent. This much needed break and distance will strengthen your bond with your spouse and also restore your relation with your children and you will look after them with much more love, affection & patience.
So, when are planning your vacation..a real one !?!
